Question: How can one do Tapas  when they have the job, the dharma of being a mother?

Babaji:

There is a choice, but if you have the feeling of responsibility of being a mother, then one can do tapas later, when one is ready. If you have family responsibility, for instance if you are looking after your mother, then make that your sadhana. Do it as a duty assigned from God. Like for me, I didn't have imaginations of "I shall be the manager of an ashram" - I just simply did my job, and practiced meditation when I could, when Swamiji was not there. So then by doing this properly, as service to the Guru, the mind became settled. So then for me tapas was easy. So do your work as service to God, then it becomes sadhana.